howard mcsweeney1- Location: Dover
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2 January 2011
22:0687387ok bern will tense myself for the next bulletin.
3 January 2011
09:2487409Jan Higgins
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3 January 2011
10:1687418I have just read the latest Bern, your mother seems to be improving a little thank goodness.
Sadly her nursing care still seems to be way off what it should be, the chart filling or should I say lack of it is awful. It is really making me feel so cross and also helpless as there is nothing we on this site can do to improve matters for you.
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3 January 2011
10:2387421You are very kind, and honestly the kind words and support have meant so much. So many of us have had or are having these trials and the goodness of our chums on DF has made a huge difference to this forumite, so thank you.
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3 January 2011
12:4487466We are all behind you, Bern....
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3 January 2011
13:3087487The great thing here Bern is that we`re getting first hand information, and I`m sure there aren`t many outlets for such `live` knowledge. It would be interesting to know if this is a countrywide problem or just an isolated few hospitals.
Tell them that I came, and no one answered.
Jan Higgins- Location: Dover
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3 January 2011
13:5687504Sadly Colin, I suspect it is countrywide with a few exceptions, not the other way round.
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3 January 2011
16:4087546Spot on Jan. And sadly it is not a new thing either. So even less excuse.
Keith Sansum1
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4 January 2011
15:3287695bern
it is a great blog/story line long may it contiue
sorry to hear the problems encountered
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5 January 2011
22:1087856Hi Guys - the next post is on the blog. Thank you for your exceptional support. My Mother is sadly seriously ill and we are now walking about palliative care. I will blog tomorrow about todays meeting with the medical team.
Thanks chaps.
Jan Higgins- Location: Dover
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6 January 2011
09:0787867I have just read the latest Bern and also flagged it up on the Front Page comments to make sure more people read it.
Good luck today with your meeting.
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Guest 690- Registered: 10 Oct 2009
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6 January 2011
14:5587898Been reading your blog everyday Bern and I do hope your meeting with the medical team goes well today and you get some positive results.
Tell them that I came, and no one answered.
6 January 2011
17:1987910I have just read your blog and am shocked. I know there is incompetence in any large organisation but to experience this high level of incompetence at such a difficult time for yourself and your family is the stuff of nightmares. I wish you and your family all the best and hope for a good recovery for your mum.
I wonder what the high level of management wages and bonuses actually contribute to the NHS. If nothing else, management should be ensuring a paper trail, thus ensuring clinical records and bedside charts are maintained. As you suggest, these appear to be simply a demonstration to demonstrate that they are doing something, when in fact it simply demonstrates that failures are endemic within the organisation. And failure starts with poor management; feeding down to disheartened staff, poor moral, and a bad job as a result. It is such a shame to see the NHS in such a state; it is even more of a shame to inflict this shambles on vulnerable and sick people.
7 January 2011
22:0788106Hi Guys - Day 9 is ready for reading. I had some trouble loading all the script so have just added the link to my blog page - I hope that is ok?
I realise that you may be becoming what used to be called "Compassion Fatigued", but please, keep reading. It so matters. This is your - our - NHS and it matters that we see the worst and the best of it. There is an almost valid comment on the blog page that we are tarring all nurses with the same grubby brush - NOT TRUE! This blog is a straightforward account of what I see, and it is just that. And the number of emails and comments I have had sharing similar stories reveals that it is not an isolated incident. It matters that we know and that we share. And thank you again for so many warm and supportive emails and comments. They make the world of difference.
Guest 657- Registered: 13 Mar 2008
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7 January 2011
22:1688107I continue reading Bern and keeping your mother (and yourself) in my thoughts and prayers.
Guest 645- Registered: 12 Mar 2008
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8 January 2011
00:2488112Bern
There isvery little I can do to alliviate your mothers plight and your anguish other than say a few prayers for your family. I know praying is not 'hip' anymore but in times like these it's the best I haveto offer.
Lots of love
Marek
I think therefore I am (not a Tory supporter)
8 January 2011
10:5688140And it is good and welcome Marek - I have been indulging a bit myself too! Thank you very much - you are a comfort.
Jan Higgins- Location: Dover
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9 January 2011
13:4588336Bern, I must apologise for being so blunt with my last comment on your blog but I am really annoyed that someone can be so insensitive to put what he did when he did. I would like to say what I really thought but I think PaulB or Howard would heve to remove it so not much point.
Please keep in mind your friends on here are thinking of you.
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10 January 2011
09:0888384Than you Jan - I really do appreciate you, all of you. I have reprinted below what I put on the Berns Blog thread. It is a relief to be able to report some good stuff, but that does not make the bad stuff go away.
"Of course I haven't named the hospital, for Gods sake!! Not a witch hunt, a revealing of facts. And part of the reason (only part) that I feel to angry is that I understand the issues, understand the challenges for the staff and the organisation, and cherish the NHS.
Those of you who find it a challenge to believe that any part of the NHS is at fault (bless) might take comfort from the following, which will be in the next part of the blog. The last couple of days and nights - my Mother is near the end - the nursing has been like being carried on gossamer and silk scarves on the breath of fairies. The entire teams, day and night, have been completely fabulous. The care, skill and kindness shown has been not only lovely to see, and lovely to be able to tell you about, but a relief- because yes, indeed, it was really all as bad and as painful as I wrote. The last couple of days have restored in me something of a confidence in the nursing available and I am very very grateful to those nurses, who have done considerably more than just be good at their jobs.
Alan - Bibbuf - why so angry at me? What I have reported is simply what I have seen - I will big up and report the great bits as well in the next blog and will take enormous pleasure in doing so. It is not my fault that it was so crushingly bad for the first few days. And why not blog? The complaints system is not a good one, and you and I should know by now that following a complaints process is often a waste of time. Grow up, really. You have a right to know what may happen in your hospitals. Nothing I have written is inaccurate or incorrect - you will have to live with it. You have not upset me (thank you Jan) you are just typical of many people who cannot take any possible hint that you might not get what you think if you are sick and vulnerable. There are indeed lots of pockets of good practice, but - and here is the big secret - there are many more pockets of poor practice, abuse and neglect. Please do not be surprised when you stumble on one and are damaged.
Thank you to all those nurses over the past couple of days who have been so terrific. You have done more than care for my Mother and I, you have helped to restore some confidence in parts of the system. And those who have jibbed at this blog - these good nurses are also let down by the appalling management and practice that I have seen and thagt matters too."
10 January 2011 at 8:06 AM
Guest 690- Registered: 10 Oct 2009
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11 January 2011
15:0488570Sorry Bern, only just come on here and I`ve been reading your blog for 09.15 this morning. My deepest sympathy and condolences at the sad loss of your mother this morning. I`m sure other`s will feel the same.
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