Guest 653- Registered: 13 Mar 2008
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6 February 2011
18:1691696It can make one reflect on life's values Bern; in many case, it isn't need" but want that makes us possess things.
Remembering is always important and grief is necessary; time does heal and the remembering can make us very happy.
Roger
Guest 645- Registered: 12 Mar 2008
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6 February 2011
19:2091709Very true Roger.
I remember all my family,past and present, in my prayers...I know it's no longer cool being a catholic. But I always remember what my Dad said to me before I had to undertake 10 longhaul flights around the world for Queen and country. "No matter where you are and no matter whether I (my father) be alive or dead remember your mother and I will always be with you because the blood that runs through your veins came from us both"
His closing caveat was not to be so "windy" (scared) cos hen he was flying" the bloody Germans were trying to shoot us down,all you have to do is sleep,eat and drink".
Marek
I think therefore I am (not a Tory supporter)
Guest 657- Registered: 13 Mar 2008
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6 February 2011
19:3791715Indeed Roger.
That's nice Marek.
Yes Howard, I do remember that episode of Only fools and horses
Guest 672- Registered: 3 Jun 2008
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6 February 2011
21:5291736Post #20, excellent post there Bern.
Sitting on that bench must be very satisfying for you, enjoy in the summer months hun.
Marek old mate, let me know next time your in situ.
a beer springs to mind.
grass grows by the inches but dies by the feet.
Guest 657- Registered: 13 Mar 2008
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6 February 2011
22:0891737Sorry I missed your post Bern, how lovely you have the garden bench in your own garden now.
Guest 694- Registered: 22 Mar 2010
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6 February 2011
22:4991743heya gang,
I have kinda steered clear of it for the moment. buti have to say i am not a massive fan of too much at a grave. And I do think grief has its own place, but not in such a public place.
When i was doing the flowers ( 6 hours !) for my grandfathers funeral all my mum kept saying was, I dont want flowers that are going to die, so dont you waste your money, I want a magnolia planted for me! So I have my instructions.
What depresses me is the way that councils are removing headstones, better to move them so they are still beautiful and cherished.
We are all card holders with regard to organ donation and the only thing they arent allowed are my eyes ( random I know!)
Bern - bet your parents would love to know you are still cherishing the bench and using it.
Guest 657- Registered: 13 Mar 2008
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6 February 2011
22:5691746Don't get me started on the whole council toppling headstones thing, Health and Safety have gone mad.
Thankfully this practice seems to have become less common.
You are not alone with your eyes Jenni; I want to keep mine too.
Jan Higgins
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6 February 2011
23:2291754Health and safety is just the excuse so much quicker therefore cheaper to cut the grass when headstones are not in the way.
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Guest 700- Registered: 11 Jun 2010
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7 February 2011
18:0591862No.22 - sayings of a wise man, Marek.
Lovely to have a 'family bench' Bern.
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Guest 700- Registered: 11 Jun 2010
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9 February 2011
19:0892089Someone I know had placed a 'solar light' on her father's grave in a churchyard. Her sister was cross when she visited, but said with a smile, as she removed the lamp,
'we don't want people saying that he's at home'.
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