14 November 2010
16:0680015Dame Helen Mirren, 65, told a French magazine: "I'm under the impression that this notion of decency is disappearing from our society where conflicts are made worse on cinema and on television, where people are nasty and cruel on the internet and where, in general, everybody seems to be very angry."
I confess that I agree with this comment and this forum does reflect the trend. Many people make comments here which they would never do when talking face to face. On this day perhaps we should take time to check that our postings are made with some care for the recipients and not just an excuse to vent anger.
Keith Sansum1
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14 November 2010
16:1880016I agree
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howard mcsweeney1- Location: Dover
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14 November 2010
16:2480019without doubt the internet has been responsible for a growth in aggressive and unpleasant behaviour.
i think we are lucky compared to most sites.
Jan Higgins
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14 November 2010
16:4380026I think a lot of the problem stems from the anonimity on a lot of web sites. I am on a BBC forum that is completely anonymous and some of the comments on there amaze me. There are very personal attacks on those in the public eye, some can only be called downright cruel. I should add these are from otherwise highly intellegent people going by their other comments.
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I try to be neutral and polite but it is hard and getting even more difficult at times.
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14 November 2010
16:5680029And don't forget the lies that are posted that then remain visible. I can vouch for that one myself.
Guest 690- Registered: 10 Oct 2009
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14 November 2010
16:5980030I wouldn`t hold the internet responsible for an increase in nastiness and cruelty, it`s always been there. Humans have been like it since the beginning of civilisation, and it`s just that the internet has been the most effective tool for bringing out the true colour`s of our species. Pediophile`s etc, haven`t increased in numbers, it`s just that the internet is catching them out more than any other media form could ever do. The internet can be great for this purpose, but on the other hand, it can also help feed their warped mind`s and a want for more. The internet is great, but like all things we invent, there`s always a downside to it all.
Tell them that I came, and no one answered.
Jan Higgins- Location: Dover
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14 November 2010
17:2880037The problem is that if it appears in a newspaper on on TV it is there is likely to be a law case, this does not seem to happen if it appears on the internet.
What used to be said in private is now there for literally the whole world to see until the comment is removed, if it ever is.
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I try to be neutral and polite but it is hard and getting even more difficult at times.
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Guest 690- Registered: 10 Oct 2009
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14 November 2010
17:4780038You`re right there of course Jan, but then again, when new rules and regulation`s come out regarding things like youtube etc, it stifle`s comment all round, and then the rot set`s in, just like on Ebay, where I stopped selling items some time ago, purely because of different regulation`s coming in. I knew the identities of the bidders on there, and made some good freinds, but alas now, they`re all annonymous except for the winning bidder, and too much room for the shill bidder, (actual members who place bids to boost the eventual selling price). One new regulation can destroy anything, as we`ve witnessed so many times in the past.
Tell them that I came, and no one answered.
howard mcsweeney1- Location: Dover
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14 November 2010
18:3480044jan
re;post 4.
that is why we have no anonymous stuff here, just doesn't work.
we would be inundated with abusive stuff.
Guest 641- Registered: 12 Mar 2008
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14 November 2010
20:4280059So true Howard, that's what nearly destroyed this forum when it was open to all comers in the past, a members club is the only way it can work.
Guest 696- Registered: 31 Mar 2010
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14 November 2010
22:0880067I am part of a writers group based in British Columbia in Canada. We edit online articles, the Company promotes us, and we have a blog. The rule on the blog is: to be nice!
15 November 2010
12:0980118My son tells me that complaints about on-line bullying (on Facebook for example) have increased and form quite a large part of their workload (police), although unfortunately there is little they can do but pay a visit to the alleged guilty party.
Why people think that being downright threatening or unpleasant to people in the public eye is acceptable I do not know. There were even people saying that the journalist who was spoken of as needing to be stoned to death, should just have accepted it and not felt threatened.
It is the coward's way to write something down for everyone to see that you would not dream of saying face to face.
15 November 2010
15:5880142And, again, what about the lies perpetuated by the establishment? Once out there on t'internet it is almost impossible to get them removed. Too costly, too attention-grabbing and too time consuming, and largely redundant, as once they circulate on the net they stay somewhere on the net forever even if the original is removed. Forgive my rant, I am one of the walking wounded.
howard mcsweeney1- Location: Dover
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15 November 2010
16:4480144i had an accusation made about me on facebook by a well known local creep.
i notified them and they agreed it was unacceptable, closed the thread but left the posting on there.
Guest 702- Registered: 9 Jul 2010
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16 November 2010
07:3880235According to last nights TV series 'Coppers' the Kent Police receive a lot of 999 calls about what people post about others on Facebook.
Ross Miller
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16 November 2010
08:0780240Not sure that is an emergency....
"Dream as if you'll live forever. Live as if you'll die today." - James Dean
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While loving someone deeply gives you courage" - Laozi
16 November 2010
11:0280254Howard - once it is out there it is there for life, I know. No amount of retractions or attempts at recovery will do it, the besmirching and inaccuracy (posh word for lie) is there doing its toxic business forever, whether it is from an individual or a paper or whatever.
Guest 700- Registered: 11 Jun 2010
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16 November 2010
23:1280375Some parents seem to think it is better for their children to be brought up to be aggressive, in order to cope in today's society.
We were brought up to think that kindness and consideration are very important; these qualities too, can be of great benefit to your social life - how you feel about other people - and ultimately how they feel about you.
Rudeness, bad behaviour, swearing, crime, selfishness, and inconsideration for others do seem to be the norm in many of our TV programmes, not to mention the internet.
I wonder how many schools teach children about good behaviour? or do they just try to ignore the problems.
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