Guest 640- Registered: 21 Apr 2007
- Posts: 7,819
Sad to report that we have now deleted 5 members who contributed nothing. As is always pointed out at the time of registering, you have to join in.. Dont join up if you dont want to join in. We unfortunately go through the process together of joining and then.. nothing at all. Always a pity that as we like people to join in and enjoy it. No point sitting in the wings as a passenger.
We keep the membership level purposely low so that Doverforum retains the clubhouse feel..
so we ask all members to join in, to do their bit, if not you are just taking a slot that could be used by someone else. Remember, as someone political recently said...we are all in it together!

Guest 710- Registered: 28 Feb 2011
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Could it not be said also that if in the future those that have not been able to fulfil the promise of active membership this time, should their circumstances change such that more fuller participation is possible, are welcome to enrol again?
And, if any who are readers, but not members, have something that they wish to put before their neighbours they might do so through the editor? As many who issue self serving, and others who have important, announcements do regularly?
I am sure we are all aware that membership does require the expenditure of a fair amount energy and time initially and then a fair amount of time and energy to continue, but that it is all well worthwhile in the end.
[clearly we do not always have to be in total agreement and that each two penneth worth is another two penneth worth]
Ignorance is bliss, bliss is happiness, I am happy...to draw your attention to the possible connectivity in the foregoing.
Guest 688- Registered: 16 Jul 2009
- Posts: 268
I can vouch,Paul has allowed me to do this from time to time.It is true, circumstances do conspire, some times, to stop regular posting.
Sometimes I do not join in because I really have very little interest in politics. I also do not know many of the forum people whereas a lot of you seem to know each other. I would like to stay but am willing to resign if others think I do not have a lot to coontribute. I know that my life is of necessity a bit narrow.
Guest 698- Registered: 28 May 2010
- Posts: 8,664
Diana your contributions are always welcome, and all the best clubs allow 'country members'.
I'm an optimist. But I'm an optimist who takes my raincoat - Harold Wilson
howard mcsweeney1- Location: Dover
- Registered: 12 Mar 2008
- Posts: 62,352
i think diana has misread the situation here, paul has deleted people that never posted here.
just looked at dianas profile she has posted 686 times!!!!!!!!!
Guest 710- Registered: 28 Feb 2011
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Off the top of my head,
Before I would wish any to think themselves less important the more they regard themselves 'part-timers' I would like a monthly or quarterly newsflash be sent out to those who's names don't show-up with regularity. Just the gist of what has been going on. I appreciate that the self censorship coupled with the occasional cull does help to concentrate the mind and keep us all talking to one-another, however some of the issues that find there way here are pointedly local in character and cry-out for wider audience and participation.
I appreciate the point you make Diana. Party Politics is nothing but boring, I play no part in it myself.
Ignorance is bliss, bliss is happiness, I am happy...to draw your attention to the possible connectivity in the foregoing.
Guest 672- Registered: 3 Jun 2008
- Posts: 2,119
Ah well there you go Tom.
Just as I was about to blow my top a few weeks ago the new rules came out for the forum which completely put me off everything and also found some of the postings VERY distasteful on a particular subject.
Iv'e had a break ( I needed it ) but still need NOT to log on for a while as some postings really get up my nose. I MUST learn to ignore and not reply.
I'm not sensitive by any means or insensitive but I do feel this puts a lot of new posters off.
Only my view.
grass grows by the inches but dies by the feet.
Alec Sheldon
- Location: Dover
- Registered: 18 Aug 2008
- Posts: 1,037
It does seem to me that if you are not in the "top ten" posters you do seem to get ignored. I have posted sometimes on various things and never got an acknowledgement. It does put people off.
Guest 710- Registered: 28 Feb 2011
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Alec,
The point you raise is a difficult one to answer. Each post is, in a sense, the posters little darling and the impression that one's little dear is not getting the attention the other darlings get is human and natural enough in all forms of playground.
As, perhaps (perhaps? who is kidding who) one of the more vociferous here I am not left with the impression that people are ignored and their views pooh-poohed with any regularity. It is inescapable that if up to 10% of all ones posts were routinely ignored this would mean less to one such as I who post at all hours than it means to those who post but rarely.
This is not because what I write is any less my little darling, it will be because I have a host of little darlings and cannot afford to get attached to any of them particularly.
Do you Alec, or any looking in, think that if we 'top-ten' took a week off things would/could be much improved?
Ignorance is bliss, bliss is happiness, I am happy...to draw your attention to the possible connectivity in the foregoing.
Guest 651- Registered: 12 Mar 2008
- Posts: 5,673
Must admit it is getting rather boring recently with politics, politics, politics, politics, just bogging down endless topics....
Been nice knowing you :)
Guest 710- Registered: 28 Feb 2011
- Posts: 6,950
PakaS,
On this one page I have counted:-
-Forum issue, x2
-Local issue, x18+
-Ian & Ted's hols, x2
-Magazine article featuring a forumite
From football through litter/parking to cliff falls. Yes there are also two or three overtly political matters discussed, but the 'where is this' thread is never off the front page.
All said and done a project such as this Forum is at the Leggo end of amusements. We each make of it what we will.
Ignorance is bliss, bliss is happiness, I am happy...to draw your attention to the possible connectivity in the foregoing.
Guest 696- Registered: 31 Mar 2010
- Posts: 8,115
Paul aka S, why don't you trigger off a few history topics? I'd join in guaranteed.
I'm still trying to figure out how old the church of Saint Mary in Castle really is.
The simple answer "it's from the year 1000" doesn't convince me.
I'm pretty sure either you or Phil have concealed historical documentation and are holding it tight.
For me , any thread that declines into a tit for tat Im right your wrong endless meander through petty squables is one I will avoid . The repatition of bumper sticker catch phrases become , for me , tedious and I loose the will to read on .
Guest 657- Registered: 13 Mar 2008
- Posts: 3,037
As a non local I only tend to join in the general subjects or something I feel I can comment on. I have been around the forum for about ten years now and know many of you having met up a few times (and yes I am long overdue for a trip to Dover.) I steer clear of the political stuff and often the links to newspaper articles as if I wanted to read them I would have already done so in the paper or online. Having said that I love this forum because it's personal, like a family (and yes I know that can have its good and bad points too.) As with any forum there can be snide comments but apart from a few recent incidents, we don't tend to get it here because we respect each other. Alec sometimes a thread just dies for whatever reason, many a time I think well I've killed that one so you are not alone. However I'll sometimes post something and am amazed at the interest it generates, so don't give up. I think it's annoying for PaulB when people join and never post at all, they are taking up space for someone who could genuinely want to post and join in. It's a different matter if one of the regulars can't post for a while due to circumstances.
Oh and you'll be hearing more from me in the next few days (I'm apologizing in advance!)

I am at home recovering from minor surgery on my jaw yesterday to remove bone fragment following a freak accident a few years ago.
Guest 744- Registered: 20 Mar 2012
- Posts: 412
Agree with Diana, Sarah and Jeane. Can't stand petty sniping and deep political debates. Have been reading the forum for sometime now and have recently decided to join in, hoping not to upset anyone with my comments!!
Guest 700- Registered: 11 Jun 2010
- Posts: 2,868
Tom and Paul-
I definitely DON'T do politics either.
Hope to put some more pieces and photos from old newspapers on soon....
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Lincolnshire Born and Bred
Guest 655- Registered: 13 Mar 2008
- Posts: 10,247
LOL - all to their own and the beauty of this is that there is such a huge variety of topics......
howard mcsweeney1- Location: Dover
- Registered: 12 Mar 2008
- Posts: 62,352
that's right, not many things not discussed on here.
I sometimes feel that most of the posts are politically orientated. Then the comments often get personal. I do not know the protagonists well enough to be able to tell whether this is good humoured joshing or real nastiness but if it is the former posters should remember that what is heard in the head as funny often does not read as such.
I always trawl through to find the posts that are not political and try to respond to those that have had few answers. It is great to feel part of the "family" and for the information of all I am going to be let out today - going to spend a couple of hours on the seafront so if any forumite sees a fat old lady in a wheelchair please come and introduce yourself!