Guest 649- Registered: 12 Mar 2008
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I have always said if you are a member you should use your real name ,unless you are a spy.
how can you be a member of a club if you do not use your name .and that is what the Dover forum members page is ,it is a talking club,there are many other ways you can put your views over ,like facebook.But not the members page of the Dover Forum if you do not what to use your real name.
Thank you.As for myself I want the members to know what I am talking about no point in posting if one does not do that.
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Guest 1458- Registered: 16 Jan 2015
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As usual you are right hunk but it seems you are fighting a losing battle with Alternative and FL names reappearing in different ways. Big sigh.................at least the weather is good over here!
TheThinWhiteDuke- Registered: 7 Jul 2016
- Posts: 335
Nope. Sorry. Not going to. Don't have to anymore. And the current webmaster seems to agree.
I'm sorry if I kind of helped to derail the Dangerous Dogs thread after a couple of people brought up the subject of pseudonyms. I don't want to have to retype all of my points again so go have a look at my posts there (apologies again for the formatting in the first one).
Allow me to elaborate (and maybe reiterate) a bit.
Let's say you join an internet forum and make what you consider some valid points/arguments.
At best your well honed arguments are misconstrued and/or ignored, you maybe get a few names and insults thrown your way. Absolutely nobody debates their position, your points, or moves the conversation on in anyway. Stonewalled. Maybe some people are so offended by your right to air your point of view that they cancel their subscriptions. Or suggest that nobody respond to you. Who really cares? Lighten up. It's The Internet.
At worst, you maybe really offend some psychopathic narcissists. The sort of people with a "How dare you challenge my world view/I know who you are/where you work/live" approach to confrontation (let me state right now for the slow of thinking that I am not calling anyone on here a psychopathic narcissist). You know the type. They won't respond to reason (google it). Maybe you've dated one or two?
Do you still think it's sensible to insist on using real names on a publically accessible website?
Should anyone who has to wear a name badge at work be barred from on-line discussion?
This should be (ooh, hang on, it actually is) a public internet forum about Dover. Not a private members club. If you want that kind of thing maybe there's another way you can do that on-line? An invite only facebook page perhaps? I know the old (frowned upon by some on here) Dover Locals used to have some subsections that were invite only. Maybe that could be arranged here?
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Guest 649- Registered: 12 Mar 2008
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I have no more to say about it,that is my point of view and have no more to say about it.
Paul M- Registered: 1 Feb 2016
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I am in agreement with TTWD on this. I'm sorry folks but this is an open forum for all and it is not a members only club.
Everyone is entitled to their own view and unfortunately for a variety of reasons already stated there are instances when it is not posiible to be as open as one would always like to be, so better to post anonymously than not at all.
This is the only Forum I have come across where this is an issue. It is common practise to use a pseudonym in 2016.
While we are sort of on the subject why on earth is the politics forum separated from the main forum? Navigating between the two is irritating. Surely it makes more sense to amalgamate the two?
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Chris- Forum Admin
- Location: Dover
- Registered: 17 Oct 2009
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Paul M wrote:While we are sort of on the subject why on earth is the politics forum separated from the main forum? Navigating between the two is irritating. Surely it makes more sense to amalgamate the two?
Hi Paul,
They were separated because at one time (when they were combined) the forum was getting a little overrun with political threads, and a lot of people visit the site for local topics rather than politics.
You can combine them again in the
Forums page of Your Account and tick the relevant options for 'My Dover Forum' - this way everyone has the choice of separate or combined forums.
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howard mcsweeney1- Location: Dover
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My understanding is that it is still a member's club hence the need for names, fully agree about splitting the forum into bits especially the politics thing. People miss out on some interesting issues because the word "politics" puts them off.
Jan Higgins- Location: Dover
- Registered: 5 Jul 2010
- Posts: 13,655
I do not mind the pseudonyms when I can guess whether it is a man or woman posting as that gives me an idea of their mindset.
When some of our more blinkered politically minded posters gave up, I merged the two pages and have never regretted my decision.
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Paul M- Registered: 1 Feb 2016
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Chris - I have combined the two but you still need to navigate between them once you've gone into one or the other. It seems a bit of a strange way of going about things and not very user friendly. The politics forums attracts fewer responses these days so why not just put it back as one?
Howard - The name is clearly Dover Forum not Dover Member's Club. It is open to all and sundry including some who will have different opinions, agendas and alliegences. That in my opinion is healthy for the contributions, otherwise you get little cliques appearing which will only put people off from posting.
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Chris- Forum Admin
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- Registered: 17 Oct 2009
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The two forums should appear as a single merged 'My Dover Forum'? There was a small bug (now fixed) which may have caused problems.
howard mcsweeney1- Location: Dover
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Facebook is all real names Paul a few try it on but have their accounts deleted. Kent Online is practically all pseudonyms and lot of the posts are straight from the sewer.
Paul M- Registered: 1 Feb 2016
- Posts: 393
I can see where you are coming from and suggest that anyone with an IQ of more than 50 should avoid Facebook
From what I've seen on here most posts are from reasonable and sensible people willing to enter into adult debate along with a strong administrator who will take action if needs be.
You'll always get the occasional idiot but we all have to deal with that in all walks of life and I suppose even the idiots are entitled to their view.
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Bob Whysman- Registered: 23 Aug 2013
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Jan Higgins wrote:I do not mind the pseudonyms when I can guess whether it is a man or woman posting as that gives me an idea of their mindset.
When some of our more blinkered politically minded posters gave up, I merged the two pages and have never regretted my decision.
Jan, it is all very well being able to differentiate between men and women posters, but how the heck are us mere males expected to understand a females mindset?
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Jan Higgins- Location: Dover
- Registered: 5 Jul 2010
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Bob, it takes a woman to understand other women, you men just give up the struggle when the going gets to difficult.
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Reginald Barrington- Location: Dover
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It's fear Jan
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Arte et Marte
howard mcsweeney1- Location: Dover
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Speaking from bitter experience male to female "what's wrong" female to male "nothing" with a tortured look that said "if you don't know what's wrong I'm not going to tell you".
It goes across the species I adopted a 7 year old female Lhasa Apso who simply used body language to show I was in her bad books. She had only one eye but people commented that she said more with that one eye than anyone or anything with two eyes.
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Bob Whysman- Registered: 23 Aug 2013
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howard mcsweeney1 wrote:Speaking from bitter experience male to female "what's wrong" female to male "nothing" with a tortured look that said "if you don't know what's wrong I'm not going to tell you".
It goes across the species I adopted a 7 year old female Lhasa Apso who simply used body language to show I was in her bad books. She had only one but people commented that she more with that anyone or anything with two eyes.
That's not the dog that's writing on here under a pseudonym is it Howard?
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Bob Whysman- Registered: 23 Aug 2013
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Jan Higgins wrote:Bob, it takes a woman to understand other women, you men just give up the struggle when the going gets to difficult.
It's called damage limitation Jan!
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Captain Haddock- Location: Marlinspike Hall
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Vic Matcham wrote:I have always said if you are a member you should use your real name ,unless you are a spy.
Well said Vic. Precisely.
'If no one went no faster than what I do there'd be a sight less trouble in this world'