Jan Higgins
- Location: Dover
- Registered: 5 Jul 2010
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31 August 2010
21:0768195#1
We have a problem with a fellow volunteer who to put it bluntly seems to be loosing the plot, not dementia, just erratic behaviour. She has been there a very very long time.
Should I go to management or not.
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howard mcsweeney1- Location: Dover
- Registered: 12 Mar 2008
- Posts: 62,352
31 August 2010
21:2468201#2
keep it under your hat jan, could be that our susan was just having a bad day.
Keith Sansum1
- Location: london
- Registered: 25 Aug 2010
- Posts: 23,948
31 August 2010
21:2768202#3
Oh dear
and i may know who it is
anyway sometmes its kinder to have a word in the ear
if all else fails someone should know
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Guest 657- Registered: 13 Mar 2008
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31 August 2010
21:3768204#4
I would say have a discreet word with management. If this person or anyone else was put at risk or harmed, you would never forgive your self for not making them aware.
Guest 694- Registered: 22 Mar 2010
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31 August 2010
21:4768206#5
yeah i would discreetly just mention you are worried about them, maybe they know something you dont..
31 August 2010
21:5368210#6
Paranoia creeping in Jenni?
Jan, speak to management and expect nothing to happen, unless they are indiscrete. In which case you can expect a very unhappy fellow worker.
Jan Higgins- Location: Dover
- Registered: 5 Jul 2010
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31 August 2010
21:5668211#7
No, I could never let on here who it is but it is definitely not Susan we never see her.
The person concerned is basically fit for her age, although she does like to make the most of the aches and pains that all us oldies get, so is not likely to be a danger to anyone.
The main problem is nobody knows what kind of mood she will be in, so we never know where we are with her. The atmosphere can be very tricky at times which when you are a group of volunteers is not nice at all.
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Guest 694- Registered: 22 Mar 2010
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31 August 2010
21:5768212#8
ohh Sid i was always paranoid.. you lot just kept me in check...!!!
and the reason i say is because Nan bless her heart doesnt have dementia according to the doctors, but we can all see it..
Sue Nicholas- Location: river
- Registered: 12 Mar 2008
- Posts: 6,025
31 August 2010
22:1068219#9
Jan,
Today I have been to an Age Concern meeting at Deal.I arrived back in Dover at 12,30pm and went to Riverside Centre .I had hoped to pop into the Shop to have a chat with the volunteers however I had work to do in River .You will see from another thread what it was .
Mark my words I shall be in the shop tomorrow .Like you Im a volunteer.
howard mcsweeney1- Location: Dover
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- Posts: 62,352
31 August 2010
22:1568224#10
you must admit susan that the miscreant does fit your description.
Sue Nicholas- Location: river
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31 August 2010
22:1768228#11
Ha Ha
howard mcsweeney1- Location: Dover
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31 August 2010
22:1868229#12
it did say fit for her age susan, take it as a compliment.
Jan Higgins- Location: Dover
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31 August 2010
22:2468232#13
Sue the person concerned is away at the moment, I know I can count on your discretion as you might have guessed who I mean. A fellow River inhabitant should be on in the morning that I think you should know.
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Sue Nicholas- Location: river
- Registered: 12 Mar 2008
- Posts: 6,025
31 August 2010
22:2968234#14
Always fit Howard
howard mcsweeney1- Location: Dover
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31 August 2010
22:2968235#15
oh dear river, there does seem to be a plethora of mental health problems in that idyllic part of our fair town.
it does sometimes seem that victor is the only sane one there.
Jan Higgins- Location: Dover
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31 August 2010
22:4568239#16
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Guest 700- Registered: 11 Jun 2010
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31 August 2010
22:5968244#17
It is SO difficult when you have someone who is a keen helper/volunteer in any organisation,I know of one in the Dover area who has worked hard for years, but is now losing her short term memory and doing unexpected things like clearing away tables when they don't need clearing, etc. An old uncle of mine played the organ in church for years and years until, aged 90, his daughter had to calmly tell him he was missing the right notes, it did upset him of course, but what is the alternative? sometimes.
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howard mcsweeney1- Location: Dover
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31 August 2010
23:0468245#18
very good point kath we sometimes we have to turn a blind eye and encourage those who have problems to be part of the mainstream.
Jan Higgins- Location: Dover
- Registered: 5 Jul 2010
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1 September 2010
07:4468259#19
Thank you all for your replies.
It just goes to show how one can get wound up about something that affects your working area. I completely forgot about Sue and that she would read this thread
. So management now know about the situation anyway.
I do hope we can get things sorted because the person in question has done and continues to do so much for the shop, it is just the atmosphere she is creating that is getting unbearable.
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1 September 2010
09:3068272#20
Kath, are you sure he wasn't playing all the right notes, just not in the right order, similar to Eric Morecambe?
