Years ago a member of our family visited a loved one's grave regularly and wept; my grandad said no one was going to weep over his grave, and since then all the family has chosen cremation.
We know it is very difficult to accept the loss of a loved one, but surely there are more meaningful ways to remember them and pay a tribute, rather than just what I call 'littering' a grave.
Friends of mine in Wales have just bought a bench for people to sit on, on a public footpath at a beauty spot, and it is being used and appreciated.
