Complex friendships
- 23 April 2012 15:08167549Today during one of many ladies at lunch dates myself and my close friends discussed the above it struck us how hard friendships can be to keep alive i would say the friendship i have with these friends is more like being sisters we fallout, we support each other , rely on each other and are always there through good and bad times we have all had babies close together and seen each other through so much one has been fighting breast cancer, one relationship probs and another a sexual assualt less than two years ago yet we all have had the fake friends who talk the talk yet never there when time comes or trust is lost , myself has again lost contact with one of my best friends from primary school who just disappears but we all have ways to keep friendships alive so the question is which is yours??? and where do you draw the line and walk away???
- 23 April 2012 15:33167557a big difference between the sexes here with the ladies keeping friendships from school through to old age, always remembering each others birthdays and such like,
blokes in general have a few mates and a few acquaintances and very rarely fall out like their female counterparts do.
blokes never remember their mates birthday as they are very unlikely to send a card. - 23 April 2012 15:34167558Spot on Howard...
- 23 April 2012 15:49167563I know exactly what you mean Mel. I found out with certain friends that I was the one always arranging things, ringing round, e mailing and putting my self out to meet up etc. Granted I know some friendships do fall by the wayside because of work, children, relationships, moving etc, but some do survive. Example 1, a girl I worked with, we were just colleagues for a couple of years but since I left the job we e mail regularly and meet up only occasionally, but I count her as one of my best friends. Example 2, a girl I have known since school i.e. for years, who stopped returning my calls and is no longer in contact (I have heard through other people she is ok and not ill or anything.) Basically there are no hard and fast rules, what works with one person may not work with another. I learned the hard way with some friends when I was very ill in 2010. I had no time to let people know I was in hospital so some people didn't hear from me for weeks. It was interesting to see who made the effort to find out why I had apparently dropped off the face of the earth and who didn't! Actually surprising was probably a better word. Some people I do think are worth the effort of trying to keep in touch with. Men of course see it differently, they tell us we have to 'let people go' and it's 'their loss'. They might have a point!!
- 23 April 2012 16:42167586Bet you remember all your ex-girlfriends'' birthdays, Barry? You know, Plan b and all that.
I'm an optimist. But I'm an optimist who takes my raincoat - Harold Wilson - 23 April 2012 16:44167588I think Facebook has changed the way friendships develop over the years but I'm not sure in what way. I am sure forumites will have views though.I'm an optimist. But I'm an optimist who takes my raincoat - Harold Wilson
- 23 April 2012 16:53167597Plan C Peter, smile and nod...
- 23 April 2012 17:15167621I completely understand Jeane . My friend who i was best mates with since primary has again just lost contact this is the 3rd time and now ive realised i wont be allowing her back when she drops back to Dover, ive moved on but i find it a real let down who one other friend wanted to know everything about my life on a daily basis yet wouldnt open up or say their plans never wanted to meet up, didnt ring or make effort not even a christmas card etc got silly in the end to point i walked away and wish i had done it a lot sooner . Facebook does have an effect i guess but still cant beat a good get together
- 23 April 2012 17:17167626Ref to the men , if it was a friendship between a man and woman i dont think the lack of effort it would last or work and dont think us girls ever have a plan such as Barry w
- 23 April 2012 18:37167707Diamonds are a lady's best friends, just keep the diamonds rolling and she'll be your best friend
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Kent First http://youtu.be/04F3mAP3fV4 Keep banging on http://youtu.be/qYCU_SKmkGQ - 23 April 2012 18:40167711Or for the very cheap men cubic zerconia